Where My Gays At?

[MIKE]

Posted this in general but I'm seeing a lot of people posting general topics on this forum, so I thought I would too. I ask this question here as I don't know many gay people and thought I'd have a better chance at answers on here, as no one seems to get what I'm saying.

I just gotta say it, and maybe some girls can relate, but do you ever grow tired of being "just so prettay"?!?!

I feel like I'm on a hamster wheel; constantly putting in so much effort on how I come across. I fidget constantly with my looks, and take on a lot of stress with maitenece to my body and face.

I know we all can feel that way, but being gay it has been tough on me. One end I'm so self conscious on my physical, but on the other side I have major insecurities about my personality. Am I too feminine? Am I not gay enough? Am I a respectable member of the general public, and am I an accepted member of my own sexual society?

[killthelights]

I'm not gay, I'm a straight female but I have been having moments a lot where I get a sense of dread about all the extra effort and nonsense I feel obligated to go through to feel semi confident. When I think of how much time I spend doing makeup, dieting and intensely tracking food, avoiding cellulite, hair, eyebrows, and other general upkeep I get stressed. I am going to see friends in NYC tomorrow and the amount of shit I have to pack to go two nights there is so stressful. I know I don't have to do these things but I think I'm so conditioned at this point to be beauty obsessed.

[I_need_me]

You don't have to give a fuck about that kind of stuff. Taking care of your physical appearance must be something that makes you feel good, for example, I feel great when I buy a new t-shirt and it looks good on me, or when I style my hair and it looks perfect, you know what I'm saying? Taking care of yourself must be a source of confidence and not stress, and you have to try to see it that way. And regardless your attitude it's the same thing, just be who you are and don't think about being too feminine or too whatever, just be yourself. I know this all sounds so cliché but it's just the truth, you have to let yourself be who you are without caring about what other might think, because there will always be people who will criticize you, but if you act like yourself you will find people who will genuinely love you and care about you, I promise you. Having great people around you will make you forget about everything else!