I'm Really Lonely Right Now :(

[Everytime]

I'm really lonely you guys... I don't know what's gotten into me tbh... but the last couple weeks I've felt so alone. I just turned 17, I shouldn't feel like this.

Right now I'm sitting at home on my computer just listening to BJ to make me feel better. But it's like this every week. I feel so lonely! I only have one true friend. ONE. I know having one true is better than 100 fake ones, but it still hurts... and right now I'm homeschooling for some personal reasons. It's impossible for me to make friends without people thinking I'm weird or socially awkward, because of that.

I haven't been to a party in my high school years. I haven't been in a real relationship.

I have an amazing, AMAZING life. I really do. I get to have so much fun, but I have no friends until I log on here or another online website and start talking to people. I haven't had real high school experiences... it's not normal, I know.

Some days I'm fine and others I break down like this.

I just don't know why I've felt like this... I thought today would be better, but I ran into my best friend from Elementary school with a bunch of other kids I vaguely know eating together and having a great time. It made me feel so alienated for some reason and it was CRAP to see that. I'm not mad at them or anything at all, I just wanted to be with them.

Sorry for the rant, I just feel really bad right now and I want to tell someone.

The only thing that helps me right now is prayer and chatting. So, I thought this might help. :/

How do you guys help loneliness and having no friends?

[Babydoll]

Awwww Honey, don't be sad , I wish I was there with you and hug you , I know how you feel, in my entire life I've only made 2 friends, and as we grew old we took different paths and I haven't see them in 6 years, I was bullied all my childhood and that always makes you be even more excluded, but you know, I always think that I'm very lucky to have this life, to have the opportunity of study, have a great family and be free, so, always remember, that happiness lives inside each one of us, don't let anything to take the smile out of your face, because, after all we only have one life, and he have to make the best of the situations !!



I hope you feel better soon Bb

[GlenCoco]

you know i had the same issue back in the day, i never fited into my HS, i was very lonely and i had my first relationship when i was 19, i think after i ended HS thinks started to get better i went to the university and i made new friends new enviroment new everything and now i'm happy yeah i still have lonely nights but after hs IT gets better

why dont you join a group or something? maybe you can meet new people

 

i know how you fell but u also have to move and look around and start to do something outside, join some group in your are idk, but try to look for help and let know ur family how you feel, they might help u a lot.. mine did and PM me anytime y wanna talk hun

[killthelights]

I'm sorry how you feel, and I can relate. I've struggled with depression since I was about 15/16 (22 now) and recently diagnosed with anxiety as well which I think heightened during my parents divorce this past year. Now that I've graduated college I've been working for my dad and my friends are scattered about the east coast so I've been very lonely lately. I am an introvert but so much time alone can really start to get to me. I'm going to try getting more active and getting fresh air more, read for fun, do things that truly serve my interests because I don't think I do enough of it...I do alot for my family but not enough time for me. Maybe try doing things you're passionate about...I'm sure things will fall into place.

[JoshLee]

I'm sorry. You don't seem like an awkward person at all.

You're cool, funny and very outgoing

It's ok that you didn't go to high school parties because those are not things you want to go to.

Hang in there, you'll get more true friends then just one. just give it time

[ValetGirls]

I can connect with you bb. When I got into college, I let my need to surround myself with "friends" get the best of me and I became a huge partier. got way deep into drugs, dropped outta college, and I had to realign myself, and now I'm really lonely in a totally different state with new people and true friends who'll listen few and far in between. idk about you, but I'm naturally an extrovert (tho a guarded one when it comes to info that actually matters), so whenever I'm feeling low, I try to reach out to my close circle. If you're having a hard time connecting, it's alright. The right people will come at the right time, but friends will only meet ya halfway: put in the effort and discipline to make some good friendships. It might make you vulnerable (something I've had a hard time reconciling) but how else will you get the other person to be comfortable with you?

 

If I can dispel some shit too: partying in high school isn't the "high school experience", it's idiocy. Us college kids hella look down upon their basic sorry asses. This is coming from a class president-type back in my high school days, and I never drank or smoke until I hit college; you're honestly not missing out at all and I wish I could go back to being the cleaner peppier me with the unbroken image and the perfect reputation. I'm working towards that now that I'm sober and focused on my studies (reenrolled in in a great new college, hollaaaa), but it's a process I wish I never had to go through. Never be jealous of happiness that's feigned or temporary, and only compare and study yourself to past (and future!) versions of you; that's the only real way to meaningfully progress in life.

 

Anywhore, that's my wall of text for the day Just my thoughts hmu if you're ever feeling down dahling

[Everytime]

Awwww Honey, don't be sad , I wish I was there with you and hug you , I know how you feel, in my entire life I've only made 2 friends, and as we grew old we took different paths and I haven't see them in 6 years, I was bullied all my childhood and that always makes you be even more excluded, but you know, I always think that I'm very lucky to have this life, to have the opportunity of study, have a great family and be free, so, always remember, that happiness lives inside each one of us, don't let anything to take the smile out of your face, because, after all we only have one life, and he have to make the best of the situations !!

I hope you feel better soon Bb

oh my gosh, thank you so much! this was so sweet and honestly, it made my day better!! thanks for the sweet words.

[Everytime]

you know i had the same issue back in the day, i never fited into my HS, i was very lonely and i had my first relationship when i was 19, i think after i ended HS thinks started to get better i went to the university and i made new friends new enviroment new everything and now i'm happy yeah i still have lonely nights but after hs IT gets better

why dont you join a group or something? maybe you can meet new people

i know how you fell but u also have to move and look around and start to do something outside, join some group in your are idk, but try to look for help and let know ur family how you feel, they might help u a lot.. mine did and PM me anytime y wanna talk hun

thank you so much!! Maybe things will get better when I go to college in a year and a half. I am going for music which I LOVE, so maybe I can find friends I fit in more with. That would be great. About the group thing - my one friend runs a study group and she invited me so I might go some time. Maybe it would be fun!!

[Everytime]

I'm sorry how you feel, and I can relate. I've struggled with depression since I was about 15/16 (22 now) and recently diagnosed with anxiety as well which I think heightened during my parents divorce this past year. Now that I've graduated college I've been working for my dad and my friends are scattered about the east coast so I've been very lonely lately. I am an introvert but so much time alone can really start to get to me. I'm going to try getting more active and getting fresh air more, read for fun, do things that truly serve my interests because I don't think I do enough of it...I do alot for my family but not enough time for me. Maybe try doing things you're passionate about...I'm sure things will fall into place.

thank you so much. I hope you feel better!

[Everytime]

I'm sorry. You don't seem like an awkward person at all.

You're cool, funny and very outgoing

It's ok that you didn't go to high school parties because those are not things you want to go to.

Hang in there, you'll get more true friends then just one. just give it time

oh my gosh thanks so much! you know, I'm really not that awkward in RL. I mean, I'm homeschooled, yes... but I'm just bad at first impressions. :/

[Everytime]

I can connect with you bb. When I got into college, I let my need to surround myself with "friends" get the best of me and I became a huge partier. got way deep into drugs, dropped outta college, and I had to realign myself, and now I'm really lonely in a totally different state with new people and true friends who'll listen few and far in between. idk about you, but I'm naturally an extrovert (tho a guarded one when it comes to info that actually matters), so whenever I'm feeling low, I try to reach out to my close circle. If you're having a hard time connecting, it's alright. The right people will come at the right time, but friends will only meet ya halfway: put in the effort and discipline to make some good friendships. It might make you vulnerable (something I've had a hard time reconciling) but how else will you get the other person to be comfortable with you?

If I can dispel some shit too: partying in high school isn't the "high school experience", it's idiocy. Us college kids hella look down upon their basic sorry asses. This is coming from a class president-type back in my high school days, and I never drank or smoke until I hit college; you're honestly not missing out at all and I wish I could go back to being the cleaner peppier me with the unbroken image and the perfect reputation. I'm working towards that now that I'm sober and focused on my studies (reenrolled in in a great new college, hollaaaa), but it's a process I wish I never had to go through. Never be jealous of happiness that's feigned or temporary, and only compare and study yourself to past (and future!) versions of you; that's the only real way to meaningfully progress in life.

Anywhore, that's my wall of text for the day Just my thoughts hmu if you're ever feeling down dahling

oh my goodness this was so nice. you know, I want to go to parties and hang out... but when it comes to drugs and alcohol I'm not interested at all. I just want to have fun and I'm at 17... so I feel like I'm a bit confused and I'm trying to find myself I suppose. Thanks again for the sweet words! I hope you do better and I'm very proud of you for staying clean.

[Everytime]

No kidding, I feel better after chatting with y'all. Thanks so much!

[JoshLee]

oh my gosh thanks so much! you know, I'm really not that awkward in RL. I mean, I'm homeschooled, yes... but I'm just bad at first impressions. :/

Everyone is, after a while people will know that's you and won't be weirded by it

[Richie]

I know how you feel. When I was in high school I tried to "be cool" and have some high school experciences as you said. Let me tell you, it can be fun, yes, but if it's not with real friends, it is going to be meaningless. I used to hang out with guys that were completely different from me. You know, I'm not a parties and drugs guy from instinct, but when you're surrounded of people that does it.. you kinda star doing stuff that YOU wouldn't do. Anyway, this guys were the popular ones and since I was different from them, I felt too overexposed being with them... it played bad for me. They had a lot of trouble with other groups of guys (since I was from their group, I had trouble too.) and being myself the one that looked the most vulnerable, the other guys would always go against me. I was really bullied and it felt horrible, but It was not only that it felt horrible for the bullying, but bc I felt lonely and like I didn't have actual support from them, so... I was having a bad time and I had no real friends.. it was horrible. 
I can't tell the whole story right now because it would take me like 3 pages of this thread and I'm not that good in english to explain it like I would want to, but I'm only going to say that I found real friends (I knew them already at the time, but they weren't enough "cool for me" , I was really bad to them, I have to be so grateful that they gave me another chance) and they are a lot more quiet and we share things in common actually, so I feel so much safer, and I actually enjoy a lot of good moments, next year I'm gonna start university and I hope I get to know more people that are like me and that share the same passion as me  


Sooo I don't wanna miss the point, but where I'm trying to go with this is that when you're young  you're trying to find yourself and you gotta experiment! Don't be afraid of being hurt, it will go fine at the end of the day, I'm telling you this, I'm not sorry for what I did bc I wanted to do that at the time, but I really had a bad time till I found myselt. So it's going to take time, but you have to try, try doing things you love, try speaking to people, you'd probably find someone that shares dreams and wants to live the same things as you, and don't feel bad for not having "high school experiences" bc there's no point doing things with people that you don't feel comfortable with, you better wait till you find someone that makes you feel safe and who you wanna do things with (and the same applies to relationships) 
Hope you get better, don't feel bad or guilty, you're young enough to commit mistakes

[LiaLovesGodney]

I had pretty much no friends in high school. The people I were around were not genuinely my friends and I was quite the loner. Now that I am in college I have my own small group of good friends around me. Many times I thought I'd never gain any meaningful relationships, but it just took time and waiting until I met some great people.

[killthelights]

I had pretty much no friends in high school. The people I were around were not genuinely my friends and I was quite the loner. Now that I am in college I have my own small group of good friends around me. Many times I thought I'd never gain any meaningful relationships, but it just took time and waiting until I met some great people.

This.

I had many "friends" in hs but had many falling outs with those friends towards my jr and sr year. It wasn't until my sr year that I finally connected with true friends who I still talk to everyday even though we're not living near each other. Also I have one of my best friends from my dance studio who I only see about once a year now. But when we do see each other it's like no time has passed - Those are the true friends no matter how long you are apart.

[LiaLovesGodney]

This.

I had many "friends" in hs but had many falling outs with those friends towards my jr and sr year. It wasn't until my sr year that I finally connected with true friends who I still talk to everyday even though we're not living near each other. Also I have one of my best friends from my dance studio who I only see about once a year now. But when we do see each other it's like no time has passed - Those are the true friends no matter how long you are apart.

I wish I was still friends with all the girls from my dance studio and high school dance class. But we were either just acquaintances or they are on totally different paths now.