All I Need Is A Good Advice, Please!

[Leonardo M.]

Since you all are so nice... I'd like to share a situation that I'm going through right now... and its really hard to me. 

 

 

The thing is... I met a guy on a Britney's Forum, (so, he's a britfan too)... and we started talking... like, A LOT! We met at the end of 2014... and keep contact since then. (met virtually)

We pass all the night into skype... like 5/6 hours... during the day we keep talking on facebook, whatsapp... its pretty cool, we talk about EVERYTHING! 

 

He became a huuuuuuge friend, and eventually... I started wanting to meet him personally, since we live really close! its like 20 minutos, seriously 

 

and yeah, we met... he came to my house, it was soooo good! We watched a lot of Brinny DVD's, listing some songs, had lanch... We're friends about 9 months!   But yeah, even living close, we just met personally once. 

 

The thing is... his family is moving to other city til the end of the year  and you know, I got cam, and always talk to him by the micro... but he doesn't have cam and micro... so, he see me all the time, but I don't see him, his face, his voice, you know... 

 

And since I knew he's about to move... I wanna see him more, see him personally, make memories, you know...   But he doesn't. 

 

We discussed and he said he prefer to keep it virtually...  said that he just go personally after about 2 years... and I was worry things up 

 

But you know, I'm a touching person... I need that eyes contact, that real talk... going out... but he doesn't... and its making me deeply sad! I'm not sure if I surrendly fell in love with him... but I'm just feeling so sad, I cried my eyes out today 

 

I care too much about him. He was getting some family issues then I bought him a book... to give him some distraction, you know... but he didn't even come to my house to get it, he asked me to send it to him by mail   and its made me even more sad. 

 

 

I decided to push him away... because you know, we won't see each other personally, he'll move, and he doesn't seem to care like I do 

 

I'm just so sad. Do you guys already went through anything like this? 

 

[willysilva]

except ''advice'' is uncountable, so it's ''i need some advice'' 

jk, imma read, wait a minute 

[GlenCoco]

It's very clear he doesn't care, and ven if you do the imposible he won't even see it, lets be honest if he wanted more , he would go to your house more often, see you more often get a fucking cam/mic, but he ain't doing it, i know it's hard but you have to move on find someone who really cares, and from what i see near you, i know it might be hard to let him go, you are really into him and had feeling towards him, but don't be scared of moving on to the next chapter / person in your life it is worth it promise, iw as in a 2 year relations ship where i was unhappy and he didn't see he really cared but i was afraid to move on i really loved him but when i dumped him i found someone who changed my forever i started a new relationship 6 months ago and is the happiest thing that ever hapend to me 

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don't be afraid to move on... but my opinion is let it go and move on 

[willysilva]

i just read, you did the right thing tbh. You were giving him the attention he didn't deserve 

[ifuseekme]

the best thing to do in my opinion is to move on and find another britney fan who lives somewhere near you

when I was really young my best frined (who I had known for all my life at the time) moved REALLY far away  . Eventually I moved on and I met even better friends! But don't get to close cuz eventually something will tear you and that person apart  (i learned this the hard way )

[Leonardo M.]

It's very clear he doesn't care, and ven if you do the imposible he won't even see it, lets be honest if he wanted more , he would go to your house more often, see you more often get a fucking cam/mic, but he ain't doing it, i know it's hard but you have to move on find someone who really cares, and from what i see near you, i know it might be hard to let him go, you are really into him and had feeling towards him, but don't be scared of moving on to the next chapter / person in your life it is worth it promise, iw as in a 2 year relations ship where i was unhappy and he didn't see he really cared but i was afraid to move on i really loved him but when i dumped him i found someone who changed my forever i started a new relationship 6 months ago and is the happiest thing that ever hapend to me 

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don't be afraid to move on... but my opinion is let it go and move on 

 

 

i just read, you did the right thing tbh. You were giving him the attention he didn't deserve 

 

 

the best thing to do in my opinion is to move on and find another britney fan who lives somewhere near you

when I was really young my best frined (who I had known for all my life at the time) moved REALLY far away  . Eventually I moved on and I met even better friends! But don't get to close cuz eventually something will tear you and that person apart  (i learned this the hard way )

 

Thank you guys!

 

The thing is... he keep saying my friendship is everything to him... BUT only virtually. I mean, internet is great to talk to people that is from far away... not for people that are 20 minutes from you.  

 

I have my needs... and eye contact, stay close... going out... you know, talk personally... is one of them... but he says he prefer it to be only virtually and its so sad  

 

I'm trying to do something for him... but he just doesn't let me... and even said that I was worry things up, but we've talking during 9 fucking months  

 

I just feel stupid. i'm moving on, but sometimes I'm more worried about how he feels than how I'm feeling, the idea of hurting him, hurts me...  

 

But I just can't go on like this  

 

"Oh I hate myself, and I feel crazy... such a classic tell"...  

[James]

Love has no distance baby.

 

 

I was in Long distance relationship for two times

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Both ended up badly But well, I won't give up. I will find someone who worth the fight. I even blog about my long distance relationship experience. PM me for the link. 

[Leonardo M.]

Love has no distance baby.

 

 

I was in Long distance relationship for two times

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Both ended up badly But well, I won't give up. I will find someone who worth the fight. I even blog about my long distance relationship experience. PM me for the link. 

 

I'd to check the blog, I already pmed you 

[I_need_me]

Well, I don't see why he wouldn't want to meet, I mean, you've already talked for a long time and already been together so it's weird that he doesn't want to hang out 

[Leonardo M.]

Well, I don't see why he wouldn't want to meet, I mean, you've already talked for a long time and already been together so it's weird that he doesn't want to hang out 

 

Thats what I thought too. 

 

I already said everything to him. (how I fell) When I sent him the book, I also sent a letter, saying everything... then he messaged me asking me to go to SKYPE for us to talk  

 

Then he said that I was whishing him to be real, but he isn't like this, he prefers by skype, he said it was more practice, and he is a practice person  

That wanting to meet him in 9 months I was worrying things up  

But he'll love me forever (online)  

 

He's moving to the farm. (up-country) is not that faaaaaaaaaar, but its still far... and we live so close right now and he doesn't want to have personally contact  

[I_need_me]

Thats what I thought too. 

 

I already said everything to him. (how I fell) When I sent him the book, I also sent a letter, saying everything... then he messaged me asking me to go to SKYPE for us to talk  

 

Then he said that I was whishing him to be real, but he isn't like this, he prefers by skype, he said it was more practice, and he is a practice person  

That wanting to meet him in 9 months I was worrying things up  

But he'll love me forever (online)  

 

He's moving to the farm. (up-country) is not that faaaaaaaaaar, but its still far... and we live so close right now and he doesn't want to have personally contact  

Well, at least the fact that he's moving won't make a difference 

But yeah, it's extremely weird, I'd be just like you, I'd want to meet him all the time!

[BritsBaby95]

it's bit hard to give an advice for your situation you know. from my experience, i've been friend with someone

for 6 years and-it wasn't worth it. i've put all energy into this friendship and the person that i've been friend with

didn't gave nothing and used me big time.  it's sad that he doesn't care for you, and you put your everything.

friends like that aren't worth it. maybe try to keep in touch with him  because there might be a chance to

reapair your friendship if you want to of course. you 2 need long ass conversation. and you have to explain

him how you feel and you also need to listen him the way he feels about these things.  why he doesn't want to have anything

with you, i don't know, but only advice i could give is a long conversation about the feelings of both of you. i didn't said there's no

chance, it is a chance but you 2 have to be ready to accept it. 

[JoshLee]

It would just be best to forget about him. People come in and out of your life for a reason.

He came in and already did his job, it's time to move on ik it'll be hard, but it's best just to forget and move on you'll find someone way better soon